Choice of Spouse in Marriage
SELECTION OF WIFE IN THE MARRIAGE
Arranged? By his own choice? By running?
How They Made Their Marriage Decision.
Man: I said it in my celibacy, let me see my wife first, let me decide so. I said the person I would marry is important. Unfortunately, before I got married I got married without knowing my wife well enough
Woman: I have never seen (my wife) before at the time of asking, and we did not want each other when we saw it, but we could not break our families or oppose our elders. We got married within three months of engagement.
Woman; I saw marriage as a way to escape from the troubles I experienced in the family environment from pressure. "I spoke with someone else for a year before my wife. I ended this relationship as a result of her cheating on me. But because everyone around me knew I had a word, they were talking that I was left in the middle. I am bored. My family was not understanding, they narrowed the house to me with verbal pressure. Marriage was salvation for me. I had to marry my first sight so that I could be free from pressure and be peaceful. I got married not willingly, but out of necessity.
Woman; When I was getting married, my only goal was to get rid of the oppression, I was saying that I would survive. I grew up in an oppressive family, my freedom was limited, I was not taught. So I thought of marriage as a way out. There was also a beating in our house, when my father got angry, he would get angry and beating. I can avoid the beating. "At least there will be no beating, swearing, insults, such pressure" he said. I did not think I would enter such an environment.
Male; My life wasn't very regular when I was single. I wanted some order. I had the frivolity of being single and twenties. I said rinse a little. Let me live a home life, come home, have peace at home, let my soup boil, my laundry is washed. Let me not be more of a burden on my parents. I will not be addicted. For this reason, I decided to get married
Male; My parents insisted that I get married and set up a home. Maybe I would not marry if my family weren't so oppressive because marriage was something far from me. They persuaded me to marry. They even chose the spouse candidate. They said the personality of the house girl is a good lady girl. Before they even got to know the spouse candidate, they got married. My family got married in order not to hang out elsewhere.
Male; In fact, your marriage will be in your thirties. You will feel ready for marriage both materially and spiritually. But they do not leave you with you, they say, "You are older, marry." I got married just so that family pressure would be cut off. My friends at the factory got married when they were 20-25. All had difficulties. I said I will not marry until I do everything perfectly. I got married at the age of 29. If I stay with my parents, I got married too late.
Individuals marry without knowing their spouses well enough due to family and environmental pressure.
We didn't spend time together before we got married. Our conversations, distance communication, glance, telephone correspondence, very short communication. Although it was an oral or engagement period, it was not possible to spend time alone together.
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